- Steven Stosny
- 2 Hours 40 Minutes
- Audio and Video
- Mar 25, 2018
Couples often lose the skills they learn in therapy during times of stress, retreating to entrenched habits of emotion regulation and interaction based on childhood coping mechanisms of blame, denial, and avoidance. Our task is to help them develop stress-proof habits that engage prefrontal cortex abilities to improve, appreciate, connect, and protect. This recording will illuminate the brain science that helps us create new positive emotional habits.
|Manual – Making Couples Therapy Stick (1.7 MB)||18 Pages||Available after Purchase|
- Couples often fail to maintain the skills they learn in therapy.
- Under stress, they retreat to entrenched habits of emotion regulation.
- Under stress they invoke childhood coping mechanisms of blame, denial, and avoidance.
- Teach clients to switch from “toddler brain” to “adult brain” coping mechanisms.
- Convert blame, denial, avoidance into improve, appreciate, connect, protect.
- Show clients how to act on their deeper values rather than temporary feelings
- Show clients how to use guilt and shame as motivations to stay true to deeper values, i.e., showing compassion and kindness to loved ones.
- Create positive emotional habits to replace dysfunctional ones.
- Help clients build routine micro-moments of connection, e.g., eye contact, brief touch, smiles.
- Help clients use cognitive dissonance to improve their connection.